Self-kindness

πŸ“£ Calling all self critics..

Are you a frequent flyer of the ‘I’m a bad person, I get things wrong all the time and everyone thinks I’m stupid’ club? πŸ€” πŸ™‹πŸ»β€β™€οΈ πŸ€¦β€β™‚οΈ ⬅️

If so, you’re completely normal and are in fact experiencing shame and guilt, both are universal ie many, many people feel like this too. πŸ‘­πŸ‘«πŸ‘¬πŸ‘­πŸ‘«πŸ‘¬

It is extremely hurtful to our core being and a pretty shitty way to live.
Damaging our self-worth, keeping us from fitting in and stifling our ability to ask for help when we need it.

My 3 top tips

1. Catch the shitty self talk in action.

Imagine it’s a song you hate coming on the radio. Again! Switch it off, you’ve heard it all before.
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2. Practise catching the shitty self talk in action.

When you catch it, pull a face at it, call it out, say; no thanks, I don’t want that that anymore. Keep catching it and keep switching it off because it isn’t helpful or necessary.
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3. Remember, it’s not all about You!

Feeling bad about yourself, doubting your ability and finding faults in what you do is not reserved for the posh/poor/oldest/youngest/you get the gist. It’s normal and it’s rubbish.

Sometimes, it’s worse, eg when we are worried/stressed/busy/bored/gist gotten.

Bin the shit talking and find new ways to talk to yourself. Be kind, compassionate and own your imperfections! Talking down to yourself isn’t exactly motivating or fair. Save it for when you’ve actually done something worth feeling really shit about!

Then get over it; you’re human.